Suw There is no way around the "no religion" rule if you're going for a civil ceremony. Daft, but there you go. I went to a wedding recently which seems to offer a possible solution to your conundrum. He was an atheist and she was a catholic. They married in a catholic church, with all the usual trappings etc, but he simply opted out of the God stuff. So, every time there was a vow or something which required him to swear before God etc, the priest varied the words so that he was just asked to "swear". Or, if it was a particularly religious bit, the priest simply missed it out entirely. The bride carried on as normal. It was a little bit strange. If the priest had not been such a sweetie, he could have made it all sound like the groom was making an anti-religious statement. But it was all very low key. Some of the congregation might not even have noticed. I think the groom's main concern was not that he was getting married in a church. He was quite happy to have the union blessed by a priest of the bride's religion, and happy for her to make her vows before her God. He just didn't want to make the biggest commitment in his life in the name of something in which he didn't believe. The only hiccough came when the priest forgot to miss out the God bit at one point. He asked the groom to repeat something or other, and the groom just stood there and didn't! Again, in less sympathetic hands, it could have been an awkward moment. But it was fine. So, you just need to find yourself a friendly priest and see if he's prepared to adapt the wedding vows so that only one of you has to mention God. Good luck!