Aha. So I also got engaged recently (well, last year, wedding's in June) and around Christmas time, when I'd been living with my fiancé (a great cook) for a good half year, I suddenly realised that actually I didn't fit into my regular clothes anymore. Oops. All that yummy food, and then the chips and beer most nights probably didn't help either. So we both got into the weight loss thing. And it's been going great! He: less beer, never buy chips, workout almost every day Me: ditto on the beer and chips, workout four or five days a week (yoga, the gym, occasionally swimming) but never too hard, I have to say, and - (drumroll) - sparkpeople.com So like you I've always though, you know, forget the calorie counting, that'd be BORING and kind of insane, too. But this website, well, it almost does it for you, you don't really have to weigh anything, you just say "bowl of cereal" for breakfast and it tells you "200 calories" (or whatever). It's a lot like blogging - or twittering - and it gets kind of addictive in the same way. You can also log your exercise - I did 30 minutes on the elliptical trainer at the gym, you say, and it ticks off "326 calories" and pats you on the back for doing cardio. It generates charts and works out how many calories you should be getting (and/or working off) in order to lose X a week. There's sort of blogs and forums and heaps of articles if you want that too. Honestly, I was really quite interested in the site simply as a social network site with quite a lot of good features. For free. Oh, and they have the funniest ways of getting you to go look at the ads (which fund the site) - you get points for doing various things on the site, which are displayed next to your name on your discussion board points, and also prominently on your homepage. Some points make sense - you get five points for logging your calories, for instance. Others - well, you get a random number of points (1-25) for "spinning a dial" once a day which basically makes you sit through a brief ad. Etc etc. And you get awards for each tier of points and are told how many points you have till the next level. It's really quite clever, and weird how I actually wanted to "spin that dial" to get more points. Anyway, I was bored with it after three weeks, but in those three weeks I got an understanding of about how much I really should be eating that I really hadn't had before hand. And I *did* lose weight. And I found it satisfying doing all the logging and looking at the reports, AND it felt a bit like research and therefore doubly laudable. I think there are other similar sites too, though Spark's the one I've heard about most.